Monday, 8 July 2013

20:22

By Leyla Wright

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Should you say sorry?

This in my opinion is a rather controversial topic. Is it better to be the one who says sorry or hold your ground and wait for the other person to give in?

 I often notice certain things in relationships in school, work and other places. I see people have an argument, them not talking to each other, and then one of them apologizing and their relationship being normal again. But have any of you ever noticed that often, its the SAME person saying sorry regardless of the fact that both of them was to blame?

I notice that for some people, it's such a hard thing for them to apologize for any wrong they may have done. What does that say about the person? Do they strongly believe in what they say and feel and think they have done no wrong or is their ego just too big that they feel that they shouldn't? And what does it say about those who do apologize, Are they push overs, easily made to feel guilty or do they value the relationship more than the other person?

Obviously, each argument in a relationship is different and what I've said above does not apply to EVERY fight. I strongly believe in the saying 'It takes two to tango' and so not every fight is entirely one person's fault but I think that a simple word like 'sorry' (or the lack of it) can say a lot about a person.

 So who would you rather be, the one saying sorry or the one accepting the apology? In my opinion, I hate the tension and I know I am more of a person who is a sorry-sayer than a sorry-receiver.  
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14 comments:

  1. Sarah Esaw8 July 2013 at 22:57

    I am defiantly the one to say sorry first! I much prefer to keep the peace than prolong an argument.
    I have learnt recently however, that on some occasions you just can't let the other person get away with it because it just allows them to think that they can treat you that way again and again.
    It's a tricky one but I have found that standing my ground on this occasion has worked out for the best and i'm better off for it!
    I think in the end it really shows a person for what they are and in my own experience it opened my eyes to the type of person I was calling my 'friend' xxx

    http://sle1881.blogspot.co.uk/

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    1. Leyla Wright 17 August 2013 at 21:20

      Totally agree with you, I'm glad you stood your ground and it worked out. You can learn a lot about a person xx

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  2. S Y E D A9 July 2013 at 13:04

    I think I'm a sorry-sayer too :/ Whenever I get into a little tiff with my friends I am always the first one to apologize (even though in the circumstance, it never really is my fault) Grr its so frustrating! ha

    Interesting post though! bohorush.blogspot.com
    xx

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    1. Leyla Wright 17 August 2013 at 21:22

      Haha I can totally relate with you! We must try and refrain ourselves :) xx

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  3. Kirstie10 July 2013 at 18:31

    thanks for visiting my blog !!

    I find that as you get older, it gets harder and harder to say sorry/apologize.
    It's so much easier to say sorry when you are a kid and you know you have to when you do something wrong. But when you are older, there's something that makes it harder to say sorry whether you really should or shouldn't.

    I think I am in the middle ground when it comes to saying 'Sorry'--I can stand my ground, but I also hate any tension between a conflicting situation.

    k.f.c.

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    1. Leyla Wright 17 August 2013 at 21:25

      Never really realised that until you pointed it out, you're right though. I think as we get older our ego is the thing that gets in the way sometimes. Wouldn't the world be a better place if everyone was like their child self again! :) xx

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  4. B11 July 2013 at 15:19

    I love these types of posts, it's so informative! I love your blog.

    http://talisatalksbeauty.blogspot.co.uk/2013/07/betrousse-glitz-and-glamour-beauty-box.html

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  5. Unknown11 July 2013 at 21:28

    I think it depends on the argument and who needs to say sorry. Usually it's my boyfriend who caves first because I'm really stubborn. Today though I just said 'I'm sorry' and it cleared the air a lot quicker. :)

    Jasmine @ rabbit-wood.blogspot.com

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    1. Leyla Wright 17 August 2013 at 21:28

      You're right jasmine, every argument is different and so it completely depends on the situation. Sometimes it's easier to relieve the tension though if you say sorry yourself, I'm glad it worked out for you! :) xx

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  6. Natwest9 August 2013 at 17:18

    I think it depends on the persons personality and whether or not they are able to swallow their pride. I just found your blog and I love it definitely going to be added to my list of reads.
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    1. Leyla Wright 17 August 2013 at 21:30

      That's totally true, it's often a persons pride or ego that is problem! Thanks so much for the follow, your support means a lot! :D xx

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  7. Unknown13 August 2013 at 15:53

    This is such a wonderful point. I hadn't thought about it this way before and now I can notice the difference between quite a few relationships between my friends and family and myself. I love your blog, it's so inspirational and your posts never fail to engage me x Rachie

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    1. Leyla Wright 17 August 2013 at 21:33

      Aww thanks for your lovely comment rachie, totally put a smile on my face! :D xx

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