Wednesday, 29 May 2013

16:43

By Leyla Wright

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Should you change yourself for someone?

I've seen time and time again whether it be in friendships or relationships, how people change to please others or to gain acceptance. This is a regular thing in the hierarchy set in schools (and I assume other places) where some people attempt to please others just to be part of the 'popular group' or because they feel as if they have to.

 Don't get me wrong, I think that all relationships and friendships have some sort of compromise involved and that's fine. But the thing that really annoys me is when people change pretty much their whole personality to please someone or to 'fit in'.

 This has happened to me before in friendships where I feel like said friend doesn't like me the way I am and I feel like I have to change myself to please them. But I took time to think about it and thought, well yeh it may please them for now, but would I truly be happy? The answer is no. 

If I were to give anyone advice, if they are asking you to change, then they are really not worth it. Don't compromise your own happiness, true friends like you for the way you are.

 Leyla xx

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21 comments:

  1. Nikki P30 May 2013 at 15:39

    I completely agree. "Today you are you, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is youer than you." -Dr. Seuss

    When it comes to friends, it's quality over quantity. In high school, even if you've made hundreds of friends, it's important to just take a step back and ask yourself who will be with you during hard times and for what reasons.

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    1. Leyla Wright 30 May 2013 at 16:47

      Thank you for your comment :) i just wanted to see if others shared my opinion, I find some people are willing to change themselves entirely for others who will leave you as soon as things get hard.

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    2. Nikki P20 June 2013 at 18:13

      Perhaps these people haven't yet found themselves. Being able to stay true to yourself can sometimes be difficult because the world can at times be cruel to what is unusual. I think it takes a lot of courage, and it's impossible if someone doesn't really know his/her beliefs yet. It happens mostly in younger people, right? So I wouldn't judge too harshly either. Just another thought...

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    3. Leyla Wright 20 June 2013 at 18:38

      yes true Riley, I hadnt thought of it that way. I agree, i think its important that people have the courage and acceptance to be who they want to be. Its a shame that society ican be harsh to those who are a little different and so they feel that they cant be themselves. I think people learn more about themeselves with age as people become more mature and gain confidence :) xx

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    4. Nikki P24 June 2013 at 05:26

      Yeah, for sure! It is definitely a part of growing up. Love your blog by the way ^_^

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    5. Leyla Wright 25 June 2013 at 18:11

      thanks riley! i'm so happy you like it :) xx

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  2. Unknown31 May 2013 at 22:52

    Great post and you are absolutely right!!
    Of course there will always be some sort of compromise, but it should come from both parties whether it's a relationship or friendship. If you change yourself totally for another person you'll never find true happiness.
    You just hit the right note darling a pleasure to read!!

    Christina xx
    http://christinathorup.com/

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    1. Leyla Wright 1 June 2013 at 09:06

      aww thank you very much, i'm so glad you like it! xx

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  3. Lucy1 June 2013 at 15:41

    I agree! Super inspirational x

    http://lucyandbeauty.blogspot.co.uk

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  4. Stephanie Alsay1 June 2013 at 18:05

    I completely agree! great post!

    xx stephalsay.blogspot.com

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  5. Unknown1 June 2013 at 20:03

    agreed x

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  6. Dylan & Berry2 June 2013 at 01:09

    Great advice,when I was a little bit younger I went through a stage where I changed myself to be accepted. To make a long story short I'm glad I'm no longer friends with that person! Lol
    xoxo
    -B ♡
    http://msberrystylish.blogspot.com/

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    1. Leyla Wright 2 June 2013 at 11:11

      thanks! i know what you mean, its better to be accepted as yourself or not at all xx

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  7. Leyla Wright 2 June 2013 at 11:16

    thank you Kelly! just checked it out, its great! :) xx

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  8. AHearts2 June 2013 at 14:09

    This is a great topic. This really was some great advice :)

    http://a-hearts.blogspot.com/

    ♥aley

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    1. Leyla Wright 2 June 2013 at 14:17

      thanks aley :) i'm really glad you liked it! xx

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  9. RosyChicc3 June 2013 at 09:05

    Great post hun, it's great that your toughed upon this topic! I couldn't agree more - we should stay true to ourselves and not change for other people!! :)

    Andrea | RosyChicc ❤

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    1. Leyla Wright 3 June 2013 at 13:39

      Thank you Andrea :) your comment made my day! xx

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