Sunday, 20 October 2013

Secrets...



There are many things that people choose not to discuss for whatever reason. This may be because they are ashamed or because they feel as if they would be judged if someone was to find out. They may choose to keep it to themselves or tell a select few who they trust.

But sometimes, its better to let others know of what's going on. You don't have to struggle alone and people may not judge you like you may think. You should always know that there is someone out there who is willing to listen regardless of how big or small your secret may be.
So that's why I have decided to share three secrets with you that I have never mentioned to anyone. You may want to read about them or you may not; and you may judge me and you may not, but it's sometimes good to share your feelings. 

1) I was bullied for a long time from the age of around 12-14 years old. I don't really want to go all that much into it because it kind of sucked. But yeh, I never told my parents or teachers as I really didn't want to make a big deal of it. I used to just let them get it out of their system and ignore it until, eventually they got bored and stopped. My friends obviously knew it was going on but they too, just chose to ignore it and it was never mentioned, ever. Looking back, I don't know whether I did the right thing by just letting them get away with it but I was young and really didn't know what to do or who to talk to. I guess I never told anyone because I was ashamed and felt that somehow I had brought it on myself and I never liked looking weak.

2) I find it hard to forgive people once they break my trust. I may say that I forgive you or things are 'just the same as they used to be' but at the back of my head I'm always thinking of that one time things went wrong. I'm really trying to work on this as it can really cloud my judgement. For example, one of the people who used to bully me (as I mentioned in my first secret) is now part of my 'friendship group' and to be honest, I really don't like her. I mean she may have changed but I hate that I can't move on from the past. 

3) This blog is a secret. No one, not even my family or friends know this blog exists. And I kind of like it that way. I can talk about things with people that I know won't judge me as much as real life people may.  I like that I can make friends on here and meet knew people who have similar interests. The only reason I don't really tell people about this blog, as its my place and I can discuss my thoughts. 



So now that I have discussed some personal things with you, tell me what you think about the issue? Is it better sometimes to discuss secrets? Feel free to leave a comment or share your own secret...



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14 comments:

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  2. I feel like secrets are not always great to be discussed, I mean they are secrets for a reason :)

    Love,
    Cherrydunia.blogspot.com

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    1. True, but sometimes secrets are secrets because your too afraid to share them. Not all secrets are bad or something that can never be spoken of. Sometimes you just need some encouragement to realise that you can share what you think you need to hide; just because your too scared to tell someone. Personally, I think that telling someone a secret can be a cathartic effect and can be like a huge weight lifting off your shoulders. I mean, it's better to say what your thinking or feeling rather than being all bottled up in my opinion :) xx

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  3. Love this post :) Makes me think of Pretty Little Liars hihi.

    Xo Mel
    Anxiety | Depression | Panic Attacks

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    1. haha thanks, I've heard that's a good programme! :) xx

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  4. sometimes our deepest secrets do more harm to us if they are not revealed.....others should never see the light of day.......I guess it is up to each of us to decide which will never be told :)

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    1. Completely agree! it can help us if we do reveal a secret, but sometimes it can harm others, you just have to choose what is right :) xx

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  5. I don't have many secrets... but I do think its easier to tell a stranger a secret sometimes!
    Lottie xx

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    1. you're right, may be it's because you know that they won't judge you because they don't really know you. Thanks for your comment and follow :) xx

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  6. Hiya Leyla! I just found your blog and I have to just let you know how much I love it! I love how honest you were in this and I can definitely relate to 1 and 2 - especially 2 as of recently. Thanks for this breath of fresh air!

    Jess
    http://eccentriclightbulbs.blogspot.co.uk/

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    1. Thank you Jess, reading comments like yours really make my day!! :) xx

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  7. Hey Leyla..here's a similar secret ! My blog is a secret too because its still nascent and I am not very confident of disclosing it, to my close ones. We all have unspeakable secrets (or atleast, we think they are !) but with time, trigger and the right support (like this post !) those unspoken truths can be shared, without guilt attached. This post reminds me of The Oprah show and the innumerable confessions shared on the show. Keep writing and inspiring !
    Love,
    Divya
    http://wp.me/40Arr

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    1. Thank you Divya, comments like yours spur me on to continue writing :) i just checked blog and i liked your honesty, hopefully you one day feel the confidence to tell your close ones about it and how much you enjoy updating it :) xx

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