Wednesday 29 May 2013

Should you change yourself for someone?

I've seen time and time again whether it be in friendships or relationships, how people change to please others or to gain acceptance. This is a regular thing in the hierarchy set in schools (and I assume other places) where some people attempt to please others just to be part of the 'popular group' or because they feel as if they have to.

Don't get me wrong, I think that all relationships and friendships have some sort of compromise involved and that's fine. But the thing that really annoys me is when people change pretty much their whole personality to please someone or to 'fit in'.

This has happened to me before in friendships where I feel like said friend doesn't like me the way I am and I feel like I have to change myself to please them. But I took time to think about it and thought, well yeh it may please them for now, but would I truly be happy? The answer is no. 



If I were to give anyone advice, if they are asking you to change, then they are really not worth it. Don't compromise your own happiness, true friends like you for the way you are.

Leyla xx

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Friday 24 May 2013

My favourite Quotes and Advice...


Scare yourself a little bit every day. It will expand your inner map.
This is something I tell myself regularly, but sometimes the fear inside my brain takes over. By doing something that scares you, or something that you wouldn't usually do, you can learn a lot about self. Sometimes you just need to stop and think, "What's the worst that can happen?" You're not going to die, unless you do something really stupid! Sometimes you just need to let your worries go and put things into perspective.

Twitter followers don’t keep you warm at night.
I absolutely love this quote. This what I feel like telling all those who obsess over how many followers, friends, subscribers etc. they have. In my opinion it is important that you have those few close friends and family who you actually care about. How many of those followers do people actually talk to? Life is not a popularity contest, its more important that you are happy as a person.

Don’t take anything personally, ever
This is something that I really need to do, I take things too seriously. It important to not take things personally sometimes and just let things go.




Sir Richard Branson: 'My mother, Eve, always taught me never to look back in regret but to move on to the next thing. A setback is never a bad experience, just another one of life’s lessons.' 
I will be referring back to this after I receive my A-Level results and fail! I totally believe that there's always something positive waiting around the corner. If something bad happens, things can only get better. Its important to take in what you learnt from the bad experience so you know for next time.

"Whenever you meet anybody, look for something nice to say about them, because even if they've got a hideous face they might have fantastic ankles or lovely hair, and compliments do cheer people up enormously.”
I think its important to see the best in everyone. All people have good qualities, its only some people who attempt to even get to know someone. Its also important to not spread negativity, as if you show a positive, friendly attitude towards someone, they're likely to be nice back.


“Everything matters, but nothing matters that much.”
Life isn't worth living if you dwell on things. You may have a set back in life, but you shouldn't let that affect the rest of your life. If things don't go your way, then sometimes you should just let it go.

When you look back on your life, you will regret only what you didn’t do. If you’re unsure, ask yourself “why not?”

I don't want to miss out on things life and regret them later on, when I'm old and it's too late. I saying 'yes' to different possibilities so when I look back, I can say that I had a fantastic time. 




Actually write on your blog. Nobody cares if it’s hard. 
Writing a blog is a recent thing for me, I've never done it before. I see how people regularly write things on the their blog and I always think that they have something their, permanently where they can see all the things the did before and how the grew as a person. I want to document my life too so I can look back at all the great memories I had.